“I thought to myself, ‘I know there are so many bisexual men in the NFL, in professional sports at large, and this can be a real watershed moment if other players are ready or have a desire to reveal another layer of their experience.’" Yussuf says.
The onus should not be made ours, we should not be asked to reveal ourselves in a world that is not made safe for us to do so on this day or any other. The eagerness for more bisexual people to come out needs to be examined and redirected toward the failings of a larger society which refuses to make space for bisexual people to safely exist.
At times, it can feel as though no area of our Black lives are allowed to be sacred, to even hint at the same exclusion and firm boundaries that white spaces have to keep Black people out. The plain truth is that we can never be equally exclusive, we just don’t have that power. But we can decide who we date.
I have always felt that I don’t belong to a community, not really anyway. In large part, I attribute this lack of belonging to the unnerving in-betweenness of being a first generation Nigerian-American (the child of two Nigerian immigrants), which has imparted unto me an insatiable urge to adapt to my surroundings, yet at the same time has also dictated that my experiences remain distinct, particularly as they relate to class, gender, sexuality and race.
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Due to societal constructs of toxic masculinity, bisexual men often struggle with being more vocal about their identity. Even when some do speak out, they are largely ignored or drowned out by biphobic remarks begging for them to “pick a side.”