“We’ve all been conditioned to hear the word ‘bisexual’ in Black men, and automatically think, ‘Oh, they’re going to cheat and give me HIV’ or that they are secretly gay,” says J.R. Yussuf
“I thought to myself, ‘I know there are so many bisexual men in the NFL, in professional sports at large, and this can be a real watershed moment if other players are ready or have a desire to reveal another layer of their experience.’" Yussuf says.
“People don’t seem to realize that disclosing is incredibly personal, and the world doesn’t make it safe for us to be bisexual. There is so much stigma for bi men, especially for Black bi men, due to racism.”
As a bisexual Black man who was drawn to therapy to grow my confidence and understanding of myself, I have not always had positive experiences with therapists surrounding sexuality or race.
In an idealized world, therapy is a place where the most up-to-date tools on mental hygiene are provided, where bias does not exist, and there is no risk of harm. As I’ve learned first-hand many times over, that is simply not true.
Western psychology has a history of pathologizing and harming LGBTQ+ individuals, and that continues to exist in the field. Many of its models and practices are rooted in anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment, ableism, and ultimately anti-Black racism.
You may have heard that Christians can’t identify as bi+ or that being attracted to more than one gender is a sin.
The reality is that there are many people around the world who identify as both bi+ and Christian. Different sects and denominations of Christianity believe varying things, especially when it comes to sexuality.
"Nevertheless, I was all packed and ready to take on Europe but soon enough my extra baggage would teach me a thing, or four, about forgiveness."
It’s safe to say, touting bisexual+ men’s presumed superlativeness encourages sexual intrigue firmly rooted in reducing bisexual+ men to objects of sexual pleasure and gratification.
What does it mean to witness Lil Nas X not only unfold in all his complexity but also be platformed by larger media? To be the expansive, daring, playful artist that he is?
“I know it’s going to help my relationship with my fans, my family and honestly it will help the relationship with myself.”
Matthews asserted that racism at its core is about that personal, as well as systemic, exploitative power dynamic. And there it is.
Lovato gives us pride for their bravery in speaking so openly about their struggles, sharing their story of healing, and using their platform to speak out about the things they believe in.
Thanks for the cute couple pics, but this is a white supremacist organization.
“Striking Vipers” exploited the trope of Black bi+ men as liars while refusing to have characters who explore bisexuality to acknowledge it.
People don’t seem to realize that disclosing is incredibly personal, and the world doesn’t make it safe for us to be bisexual.
At times, it can feel as though no area of our Black lives are allowed to be sacred, to even hint at the same exclusion and firm boundaries that white spaces have to keep Black people out. The plain truth is that we can never be equally exclusive, we just don’t have that power. But we can decide who we date.
The onus should not be made ours, we should not be asked to reveal ourselves in a world that is not made safe for us to do so on this day or any other. The eagerness for more bisexual people to come out needs to be examined and redirected toward the failings of a larger society which refuses to make space for bisexual people to safely exist.
I think there is something to be said about the West and our obsession with — and sexualization of — serial killers, hit men and violent individuals in general and how this ties into our repressed, regressive relationship with sex and sexuality. In this essay, I will–
I have always felt that I don’t belong to a community, not really anyway. In large part, I attribute this lack of belonging to the unnerving in-betweenness of being a first generation Nigerian-American (the child of two Nigerian immigrants), which has imparted unto me an insatiable urge to adapt to my surroundings, yet at the same time has also dictated that my experiences remain distinct, particularly as they relate to class, gender, sexuality and race.
It’s not too late to challenge and unlearn these values that bring Black men harm and cause harm to others
"Maybe it wouldn’t be so bad to live in a world without cisgender heterosexual people after all..."
#bisexualmenspeak was created for bi+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bi+ impacts the way they move through the world. Join in on the conversation!
Due to societal constructs of toxic masculinity, bisexual men often struggle with being more vocal about their identity. Even when some do speak out, they are largely ignored or drowned out by biphobic remarks begging for them to “pick a side.”
The hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak, began by J.R. Yussuf, became a safe haven this summer for bi, queer, pan and fluid men to talk about their experiences and struggles with being seen as their true, authentic selves.
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